Hi, My name is Marlana and for the longest time I put self care on the back burner.
How many of you can say the same thing?
How many of you still do this?
I think most caregivers probably do.
Being a co-caregiver for my brother, I put his needs above my own. Until that lead to me being burnt out.
I never realized how important self care is. It is a necessity.
Unfortunately we do not live in a world where people will volunteer to help if you don't ask.
Make sure you take time for you to relax from the duties of caregiving.
It will lessen your stress to take a walk, go to the movies or do something else fun for a little while.
I know what you're thinking. That's selfish. I can't do that.
It's not selfish.
If you do not take time to do this, you will end up needing care.
Don't be like me.
Put yourself first.
It will make you a healthier and better caregiver.
Why are people so angry today?
One reason I think people are so angry is because I do not think most people express their anger. Anger is seen as a negative emotion by some people so they suppress it. Years and years of doing that leads to that person just exploding and then thinks like road rage happen.
Another reason why I think people are so angry is because a lot of people are unfulfilled in their lives. They are in jobs that they hate or relationships that are unhealthy and not being able to leave those situations or feeling like they cannot do anything about those them turns into anger.
A third reason which I recently read about is a deficiency in omega-3 fatty acids. According to an article written by Dena Schmidt on the NaturalHealth365 website,. when people are deficient in omega-3 fatty acids they are more prone to anger and hostility.
The last reason why I think people are so angry is because of the gut brain connection. Most people have digestive problems. Since our brain is connected to the gut through its own nervous system (enteric nervous system), anything that happens in the gut affects our mood.
Even though it does seem that people are angrier today, there are things that they can do.
1. Express their anger in a healthy way.
If someone has angered you, talk to them about it. A lot of times people do not even know that what they did made you angry. Use "I" instead of "you" when you discuss what made you angry.
Example-I became angry when you said this...
2. Don't settle for an unfulfilled life.
No one knows how long we have on this earth. Make the most of it. If you are in a job you hate, find one that you love doing most of the time. If you can't leave that job, try to find time to do what you love in your spare time.
3. Get your omega-3 fatty acids on.
You should be getting at least 1000 mg of omega-3 fatty acids per day.
If you can afford to eat some seafood three times a week.
If not, then consider taking an omega-3 fatty acid supplement. If you are on medication, check with your doctor to make sure that is okay to do that. When looking for an omega-3 supplement, make sure you it states that it is molecularly distilled and in the triglyceride form. That is the form that is best absorbed by our bodies.
4. Take care of your gut.
If you are having digestive problems, don't just ignore them. Get seen by a naturopathic physician or functional medicine practitioner so you can find out what's causing them.
Schmidt, Dena. "DHA deficiency increases anger and hostility" NaturalHealth365.com, Nutrition News, December 10, 2016. Accessed on 21 January 2017.
Do you like spending time in nature?
I always feel more at peace when I am able to take a walk outside and really observe nature.
Be in the present moment.
Are you in the present moment when you are walking or running?
Or are you listening to music or talking on your cell.
Your time outside is better spent when you are in the present moment. It is actually a form of mindfulness. When you really pay attention to your surroundings, all your problems seem to melt away. You are just in that moment.
Another way you can practice mindfulness when you are active is to pay attention to your breath. Is it fast or slow? Deep or shallow?
Breathing through your nose actually is better than breathing through your mouth. You can actually walk or run longer when you do this.
Are you being mindful when you are active? If so, does it make for a better run or walk.
I used to hate when someone would say everything happens for a reason. At the time I did not understand what that statement really meant.
One meaning for the statement everything happens for a reason is that most things that happen in our lives are lessons. We can either learn from these lessons or continue to make the same mistakes.
The second meaning for everything happens for a reason is that certain things that happen in our lives steer us in a certain direction. When I originally had a health crisis, I thought why me?
Looking back on it now, I know that it led me to my current path becoming a health coach.
What do you think?
What does this statement mean to you?
I am a health coach. A health coach is a person who uses a mind, body & spirit approach to improves a person's health.