Even with all the awareness of what it means to be an introvert, I think there is still a lot of things that people think about introverts that are not true.
1. We don't like to be around people.
False. We don't like to be around a large crowd of people. We do better in smaller groups.
2. We are always quiet.
This is partly true. We are quiet in situations in which we feel uncomfortable. If we are in a comfortable situation, we will talk your head off. If we don't have something to say, we don't say anything.
3. We are not friendly.
False. I cannot speak for all introverts but for me I struggle with small talk. It becomes awkward and it makes it hard to try in future social situations.
4. We cannot be leaders.
False. I thought this was true until I read an article about leaders and introverts on the Quiet Revolution website. We just lead differently.
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Even with all the ways for people to stay connected, they don't stay connected.
People are busy.
It always amazes me that people think that just because you are single you are not as busy as they are. I am a co-caregiver, I work and I am trying to start two side businesses but I still take the time to reach out to the people who I want to stay connected to.
Did you know that staying connected can reduce your risk of developing Alzheimer's?
I found that out while watching The Brain Fog Fix with Dr. Mike Dow on PBS. Even though I didn't agree with all of the advice he gave on there. That surprised me.
Maybe it shouldn't have though. We are social creatures. Even introverts like me. Once you get out of college, it is hard to make friends and remain connected with them.
I remember when I was talking to someone and they said they still had friends from when they were growing up. I wish I could say that but I can't.
They often say that people come into and fall out of your life for a reason. Maybe that is true. Maybe it isn't .
All I know is I think people wouldn't feel as lonely if people would at least take five minutes to connect with them. Not via text or FB either. Actually talk to someone on the phone or via Skype. I don't know about you but I love to hear someone's voice.
I challenge you to stay connected.
Christmas is almost here. I used to really enjoy Christmas until it became so commercialized and people started asking me how many Christmas gifts I had received.
Whatever happened to this being the season of giving instead of receiving.
Christmas has become the season of stress. People are rushing around trying to get the perfect gift. Trying to get everything so they can serve the perfect meal. Have the perfect Christmas party.
I was at Walmart the other day and I almost was run over by someone rushing around the store with their cart. Thinking more about all the gifts they needed to buy instead of being in the present moment.
To me, Christmas should be about spending time with your loved ones. Getting gifts for people who are less fortunate. Helping people out who are having financial troubles. Being in the present moment and really enjoying your loved ones while they are still here. Inviting a neighbor over for Christmas dinner if they have no one to spend the holiday with. Being grateful that you are still here to enjoy another Christmas. I can only hope that other people will see Christmas the way I do and the tide can shift from it being so commercialized.
What do you think?
I am a health coach. A health coach is a person who uses a mind, body & spirit approach to improves a person's health.